Thursday, October 30, 2008

Keelan Francis is in the House!

Birth announcement
Our beloved daughter has arrived!

Keelan Francis Scanlan-Allende

Date: October 25, 2008

Time: 2:51 am
Weight: 3 pounds 10 ounces
Measure: 16 inches

She is doing very well and recently was moved from newborn intensive care unit to the intermediate nursery. Everyday is a great milestone for her and for us. Many changes have occurred and will continue to happened. We are thrill to have her with us and we look forward to provide a life of wonders and joy for her.

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

A pregnancy story

This is how it all began. The conversation went something like this...

Francis: "William we have to stop at Walgreens on the way home."
William: "Why?"
Francis: "Because I have to buy something."
William: "What?"

Francis: "A pregnancy test."
William: "Why?"
Francis: "I have a feeling."
William: What!?"...

Then... a couple of months later

we compared...

Further along the process... this is how I look like every day and growing.

and we wait.

Motherhood and other thoughts

So, I am huge. GRANDE! GRANDE! GRANDE! Oh my gosh! I did not realized how large I have become. My perception of myself was waaaaay off. This photograph was taken on September 25, 2008. So I was about 28 weeks pregnant. Today I am 32 weeks and many still that my belly look small. I am fine with that, what I will not dispute is that the popular opinion is that I look fabulous. I have only gain around 10 pounds since April 2008- the beginning of the pregnancy. Not bad for a first time mother.

I wish my parents were living closer to me- yes maybe a selfish thought but I think they would be enjoying this process (my pregnancy) a lot more and so would I. Some days I wish my mom could see me or help me shopping for baby gear etc. At least I can talk to her on the phone and this is the reason for the blog. The blog is another way to share with her and my dad.

These days I have been wondering about pregnancy and what it does to you. I do not know what it is, but recently, I have been more aware of my students issues. Not that I was not aware before, but now, is like I am really into their lives. Maybe because of the time I spend at work everyday or maybe because with pregnancy I might have become more sensitive of my surroundings. Maybe, the "motherhood mode" is kicking in. I am noticing more around me and especially the pregnant students at my school and their issues. I am amaze and overwhelm with what many of them have to face at such young age. because now, I am "officially official" an adult. A mother! And that is how many of my students see me now. Lucky them, with all this motherhood business I have also become more patient, which works towards their advantage in the classroom. I particularly enjoying the way in which the relationship with my students is developing- the classroom is very pleasant. Never underestimate the emotional capacity of a teenager. Is is surprisingly amazing.

Going back to kicking, yes, Keelan is kicking, moving, poking and every else she can do now, she is doing. According to the book, she can now turn her head towards were the sound is coming. I would love to see that. Unfortunately, we did not get an ultrasound in our last visit, so I am hoping that we will get one on the next. It is pretty amazing to see her move inside you. William and I had been in a "awe" state ever since we saw the first ultrasound. If you think about it it is amazing and almost unbelievable what happens inside you body. I am still in "awe" every time.

The house is currently undergoing many changes, so is William. I have changed, I know, and I hope it is for the best and the better of the new live that soon will come. Let the real games begin! Coming soon December 16.

Saturday, October 4, 2008

Keelan's Two Last names

This has been a very debated topic, a source of misunderstandings, arguments and disappointments. So, I like to clear the air with some information that might help many understand the reasons behind our daughter to be born.

William and I come from different places in life. I have a strong Spanish heritage mixed with Taino and Caribe Indians (indigenous people of Puerto Rico before the Spanish conquest and slaughter), African and in my particular family form my mother's side, French-just a bit. And of course after the Spanish-American War, Puerto Ricans became American citizens, so that means that I have assimilated much of the American culture through years of "colonization", but the Spanish traditions are stronger. William's heritage is Irish and Swedish, his ancestors came to the United States a long time ago, so it is fair to say to that William's cultural traditions are "American" (when he reads this blog he might expand on the topic).

As I was saying, we both have strong attachments to our traditions, however, we have also become a new family after our marriage in September 2006. It was and it still is important to us to create a home in which both cultures are honored. An example of this was our wedding day, it was a beautiful merge of cultures, traditions and beliefs. Now, with the birth of Keelan, it was important for us to continue to honour both of our cultural backgrounds.
The first name of our daughter will be Keelan. This name was chosen after an extensive research. It was important to chose a name that was easy to pronounce, to write and to remember. Also, a name that would reflect the father's ancestral heritage, will match the father's family name (Scanlan), will have some positive meaning as well as it would be a not so common ordinary name. The name Keelan (pronounce: KEE-lan) has Gaelic, Celtic and Irish origins, meaning "fair". Her middle name will be Francis, as this is William's middle name (William Francis) and my first name ( Francis Haydee). Our daughter will have two last names to honour William's family (Scanlan), and to honour my family name (Allende). Choosing our daughter's name is a very private matter. Many people is of the opinion that we should not do this. I feel that by not doing this, I will be denying my child of part of heritage and instanly erasing her Caribbean and Hispanic roots. I feel offended when others make comments such as "you are in America now" or " this is the American way" as if Puerto Rico is not a part of it- we are a "colony" a "commonwealth" of the United States, we are for all political and social purposes American citizens. But I digress from the original topic, this one will a be one for another time in which we can discuss the political status of the Island. Back to the last name matter, I strongly believe that they way in which we choose to honour our heritage is a matter of personal identity and pride. Our child will bear her father's last name, no doubt about that, but also it is important that there is a connection with the mother other than the preceding 9 months in the womb. So, she will be Scanlan-Allende. Taking from the Spanish tradition, children are given a first name (Keelan), a middle name (Francis), two surnames in this case the father's last name (Scanlan- inherit from his father) and the mother's last name (Allende- inherit from her father). The result will be Keelan Francis Scanlan-Allende. As we live in a patriarchal society, "Scanlan" is the main-first last name and "Allende" the second last name. These can be used with or without a hyphen, matter that I am researching. Later in life she will be socially address as Ms. Scanlan or Ms. Scanlan-Allende, when she marries she can choose to 1) keep her maiden name (as I did) Scanlan-Allende or 2) drop both surnames and take her partner's surname or 3) keep her maiden name and add her partner's name (Scanlan-Allende- Partner's surname).

So our Keelan will have a rich heritage filled beautiful with traditions.